Kategorie: Balanced life

The „Diamond of life-span“

Different studies have shown that it is possible to live a better life in old age.

Various aspects and actions, as well as collaborative relationships between people, increase well-being and positive mindset in old age. These found patterns are called the relationship matrix.

The four pillar of the relationship matrix are from each other dependent. All together are called „the diamonds of life-span“.

These pillars of „the diamond of life-span“ are:

  1. Relationship resources: Neighbors, friends, acquaintances, positive people of the past, where dialogs are still happened in the mind, belong to this group.
  2. Personal health / well-being: this are the medical standards and the personal view on the own health.
  3. Positive mindset: The individual happiness, optimism and well being of the own life
  4. Activity: The active participation on mental and body activities

These four pillars influence each other and interact with each other.

Here are some influences of the relationships, which are through research proven:

Relationship resources <=> personal health / well-being

People with good relationship are active together, caring for each other. Studies showed that recovery from a mental or physical illness are faster when strong positive emotional relationship are there. People are more willingly to go to physician, when a partner is on their side. To make new acquaintances happens easier when you feel healthy.

Relationship resources <=> positive mindset

Positive relationships build self-confidence and support to build meaningful goals as well give solace in heavy times. Positive attitude towards life and your self leads to more empathy, love, friendliness, and indulgence. This together improves and deepen relationship.

Positive mindset <=> activity

Positive mindset leads to trust and optimism. Activities leads to positive memories and happier feelings. Activities is in relation to satisfaction

Positive mindset <=> personal health / well-being

Researcher is convinced that positive mindset leads to personal health and well-being. In a nun study researcher found that positive emotions written in a youth diary leads to an older age. Nuns which express fewer positive emotions in the youth died to 54% under the age of 80. Compared with the nuns with positive emotions in their diary only 24% died under 80

Personal health / well-being <-> activity

Personal health enables more activity, and more activity leads to better health.

Relationship resources <-> activity

Relationship invites to more activities. This extent the own interests and creates curiosity. An active live lead to more social activities and supports in this way the relationship.

Looking at the four pillars the most important of this is the relationship to others, as this is the source for well-being and a healthy aging.

Let this diamond shine over your lifespan.

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What is the reason of gullibility?

We all know that rumours and allegations are often long-lasting. False insinuations spread via spoken words or facial expressions and gestures persist in the organization for a long time, even if the facts and data refute them. Researchers discovered social and cognitive factors that explain the persistence of rumours and allegations.

These are here summarized:

Cognitive factors

1. Intuition („gut feeling“) through:

  • Little analysis
  • Less analytical thinking

2. Cognitive inaccuracy due to:

  • References to sources are neglected or forgotten
  • Own knowledge is not applied
  • Counter-evidence is neglected  

3. Illusory truth:

  • Familiarity of information
  • Fluency
  • Cohesion with own experience

Social factors

1. Credibility of groups through:

  • Hierarchies (elites)
  • Degree of attraction / attractiveness
  • Own social affiliation

2. World views through

  • personal views
  • Affiliation to a party

3. Emotions

  • One’s own emotional state
  • Information itself is presented emotionally

The whole study can be found under this link: Eckert et al.

The five Toltec promises

From Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Let your words be blameless: This means be integer what you say, which is the case when you are honest in what you are thinking without attacking the conversational partner verbally. This means as well without manipulation, lying or cheating. (Asserting without attacking)

2. Don’t take anything personally: If you take something personally, you will behave ego-driven and lose your own balanced integrity. The person who has hurt you, thus, gains power over your behaviour. 

3. Do not draw hasty conclusions: Take it like Socrates, „I know that I know nothing.“. Our own assumptions are related to our experiences, not to the now.

4. Always do your best: When you have a project, do the best you can with all your energy and knowledge. When you have done it, let it go. Don’t Think about it any more, doubt or criticize what you have done. Perfectionism is often a lack of self-confidence and creates lasting dissatisfaction.

5. See your projects as continuous learning: Problems are always only an interpretation of the situation we are experiencing. Situations are neutral in themselves, it is our assumptions and interpretations, coming from our experiences in the past, which judge them. The own judgement have an effect by generating feelings and emotions, which drives our behaviour and at the end the result. Problems always hold the possibility to learn, grow and develop.