“Dissatisfaction is the first step toward success.” – Oscar Wilde
Dissatisfaction can serve as a powerful catalyst for change. Without emotions like dissatisfaction, sadness, or fear, transformation often stalls. While these feelings can be uncomfortable, they motivate us to take action and make necessary changes.
According to a study by Phillippa Lally and her colleagues, it takes an average of 66 days to establish a new habit (How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world – Lally – 2010 – European Journal of Social Psychology – Wiley Online Library). This period can feel lengthy, and without daily practice, it’s easy to slip back into old patterns. Therefore, uncomfortable emotions, including dissatisfaction, are crucial for consistently applying new habits during this time.
How can we embrace uncomfortable emotions? First, it’s essential to acknowledge their presence; you can’t simply wish them away. When these feelings subside, harness the motivational energy they create. Reflect on the actions, behaviors, or interpretations that led to this discomfort.
Once you’ve identified the root causes, it’s vital not to dwell on the past. Instead, shift your focus forward and ask yourself: What can I change—in my thinking, behavior, and actions—to prevent this from happening again? What support do I need? What strategies can I implement to bounce back more quickly from setbacks?
These reflections, along with a solid plan, can help make your new approach a habit. It’s also important to revisit the past that caused your dissatisfaction, as this can help maintain your drive as you begin to see progress. Additionally, celebrate the small steps you have already taken.
Remember: every uncomfortable emotion is an opportunity for change. Use it as fuel to push beyond your limits and achieve your goals. By accepting and analyzing your emotions, you can carve a path toward becoming your best self.
