In many cultures, we are used to reflecting on the past year and making promises to ourselves for the coming year. This is something we often do too little of in our everyday lives. Without regular, everyday reflection, it is difficult to learn and change behaviours that are needed for the now and are not based on past success.
The lack of reflection can be caused by the following:
– Daily stress
– Fear of discovering blind spots or letting the repressed come alive
– Sudden circumstances that intervene
– Inability to be honest
Our interpretation is unique because we construct it based on past experiences. Therefore, the following reflection questions can help us learn from observation:
- What were the three most important moments/situations in the conversation that just took place?
- Which reactions of the dialogue partner were surprising and were not addressed? What triggered this behaviour/reaction?
- What would have been an even more successful course of the conversation?
- What behaviour would have made the conversation even more successful? How can I get there next time?
In order to actually be able to answer these reflection questions, it makes the most sense to do this directly after the interview. Reflection cannot be done on the side, but it is important to stop and think. Only when you stop and reflect on what has happened can you understand and change your interpretation of the situation. Because our interpretation causes our feelings, and our feelings lead to our actions and beliefs. If reflection is postponed until later, the nuances of the conversation are weakened by your own construct.
Make reflecting on your behaviour and conversation to your routine, and don’t just limit it to the turn of the year.
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