The quote for this article comes from the Dalai Lama:
“Do not let the behaviour of others disturb your inner peace.”
Knowing who you are, along with your strengths and challenges, means being self-aware and understanding how you react in various situations and how you wish to present yourself. When you achieve this, you can live in inner peace and tranquillity. This is a lofty goal and certainly worth striving for. But do we always succeed?
I find it difficult at times, especially when significant events arise that provoke dark thoughts and feelings. However, ideally, we should not allow this to happen. Regardless of how others perceive us or behave towards us, it should not shake our self-image. This doesn’t mean we should avoid self-reflection or questioning our own behaviour; rather, it suggests that the actions of others only partially relate to us.
Perhaps we are merely a projection surface for others, reflecting their own issues in our behaviour. Or we might remind someone of a past figure who was unjust. Likewise, we might misinterpret the intentions behind someone’s actions. How often do we get upset with other drivers without knowing their circumstances?
When we allow our inner peace to be disturbed, we give others power over us, elevating their opinions above our own worth. We assume their judgment carries more weight than our self-assessment. Yet, they too live in their own world, shaped by their interpretations and perceptions.
Understanding that their opinion is neither more nor less important than our own is crucial. The art lies in balancing both perspectives without sacrificing our inner peace. This balance fosters tranquillity, leading to restful nights and pleasant days.
As you navigate your interactions, how can you maintain your inner peace in the face of others’ behaviours?
I encourage you to reflect on this and actively work towards preserving your tranquillity, allowing yourself to respond rather than react. Your peace of mind is worth it!
