Self -compassion means to treat your self with care, kindness and concern you would show to your be loved when they are struggling.
In this way, treat yourself like you would behave towards others.
Often we are more cruel and colder to our-self than to others. Self-compassion turns this around and we have against us compassion as well.
To be able to be compassion against our-self we need to be mindful with our feelings and pains we have.
There fore we have to observe them, accept them and acknowledge them instead of ignoring and suppress them. We need to look at the chance of the situation than to focus on how bad things are.
Instead of feeling isolated and lonely we should assume that nobody is perfect and has to deal by them self with challenges in their live.
This is what differentiates self- compassion from self-pity.
Instead of trying to replace bad feelings with ‘better’ ones, we can create sustainable positive emotions through dealing with our suffering with kindness and care. In this way both sort of feelings can be felt in parallel. Such friendly and benevolent ability helps us to come over the difficulties we are coping with and explain why self-compassionate people are happier, more optimistic, and satisfied with their lives than those who don´t care for them self.
From a scientific perspective strengthen such behaviour your immune system and enhances physical health by decreasing cortisol and increasing heart rate variability.